Sexuality

I realized after i wrote that blog entry on gay marriage that i should probably make myself clear on sexuality in general.

First off, as a Christian, i believe that God WANTS us to enjoy the gift of sexuality responsibly. If God only wanted us to enjoy sexuality within the confines of marriage, then that's what we'd be able to do. I mean, God's pretty good at making things work the way that God wants them to work. Besides, as some great wit once said, if God didn't want us to masturbate, then our arms wouldn't be the right length.

Also, i believe that heterosexuality and homosexuality are not only misnomers, but a false dichotomy. I say that they are misnomers because it's not really about sex. It's about who you love. It's about who you want to spend your days and nights with. Let's face it, you don't have sex with everyone that you love and most of us don't always love everyone that we have sex with. My preferred terms, because i think that they're more accurate, are heteroamorous or homoamorous. I say that it's a false dichotomy because, except for maybe John Wayne at one of the spectrum and Harvey Fierstien at the other end, there are no perfect homo- or heterosexuals. Years ago, in the fifties, the great sex researcher Alferd Kinsey came up with his scale of human sexuality. The scale runs from zero (absolutely heterosexual) to six (absolutely homosexual). I think that most of us tend to fall somewhere on that spectrum outside of zero and six. Kinsey, for instance, classed himself as a two. I would class myself as about a zero point five. I think that homophobes (or heterophobes, they do exist) would class themselves as a perfect zero or six, but tend to be more like a two, three or four.

Good information on the Kinsey scale can be found here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

Peace.

Randal